Marriage and Love seem to be the hot topics in the blogosphere currently, so says this post; and incidently that happens to be the topic of this post too.
Last evening's news featured a couple in Ohio that has been married for the last 82 years! The man's 101 and the woman a 100 years old. When asked the secret behind the successful marriage they didn't say the expected, read "trust, love, care and share". The man said, very frankly, "She's been feeding me well!" and the woman said, "He never puts me down, always lets me do what I want to".
With our first marriage anniversary a couple of months away, I wonder what has made it work wonderfully for us. Friendship and patience mainly. And there's one thing I've realised - there's no definite formula, you have to find what works for you, and stick with it.
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I totally agree with you. The relationship will not work based on a formula. If it were based on formulae, then there would not have been so many broken relationships. Also there needs to be that chemistry(Whatever the name you give) between the Married, apart from the flexibility to adjust, forget and forgive.
The flexibility part, I agree with 100%. There are bound to be differences when two people live together, the key is to compromise and move on!
Hi Gowri,
I've been married now for, lets see, hmmmmmmmmm, just about 11 years and I DO have to agree with our 101 yr friend...lots of food is high up among the list of things that make a marriage work. Of course there are is one more but I'm the blushing type! Suffice to say, I'm have 3 kids! ;)
Well, well, well, Ravi! what do u know? I only put my point of view in there, but if u ask my husband, he'll go with our 101 year old buddy!! :) Whoever said, "The way to a man's heart is thru his stomach" knew what she/he was talking abt!!
And Ravi, for the second point, u more than blushed..u even managed a couple of typos there!! :))
"There is no formula"...
That's what makes marriages and the relationships mysterious at the same time interesting.
I totally agree with the first point. I am not married but I would certainly go mad behind the woman who can feed me well.
Yeppers! You've got to find what works for you. :-)
Well, looks like good food is the #1 factor! :)
Any relationship, Husband/wife, Farher/Son, Friends/Pals ... name any ...
Work on only one thing ... Compromise
May be there are different ways of naming it ... But I call it what I said ....
In Life as far as you are alone ... there is no compromise ...
because you have to deal with only yourself .. and there is no conflicting opinion about something ..
But as you enter a relationship, any relationship for that matter...
we have to deal with other person's like and dislikes ..
and as the other person is not you, there will be differences in the way both deal somethings ..
if its a common thing that has to be dealt with, there will be a compromise ....
Did I read the other C word - Commitment - anywhere? I have been married for a year and a half, and I have seen several successful marriages in the family - and what I think truly keeps people together is a deep and honest commitment to the relationship. Rest all falls in place.
Commitment yes. But personally, I find commitment to be a forced act. Love and friendship are much better reasons to stay married; aren't they?
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